With the school year coming to an end we have to continue to remind our children of how smart they really are. Let’s use this year as an example of ways that we can make the next year an even better year. Stress the importance of what they did this year that worked, and maybe what didn’t work. Never ever forget to tell children that they are smart!
Children need to be told on a daily basis how smart they really are. Whether it be done verbally or non-verbally it can be in the simplest way possible and unexpectedly. Something as simple as setting the table in a unique way and you recognizing it can go a long way. “Wow honey you did an excellent job setting the dinner table- the way you did it was brilliant and creative”. Look over at your child and he will not only be glowing but he will have that sense of gratification- he made you proud and you recognized it.
Make a mental note to identify all the positives your child accomplishes. Remind your child how smart he is by the choices that he makes. Remind him a smart person chooses to study, do their homework, pay attention in class, and follow directions. I also do the same with the children in my classroom. It is great to remind your child the choices he makes throughout the summertime are those “smart” choices that allow him to have a greater new school year. A smart student continues to study throughout the summer and read, this is what you strive for.
Every opportunity you get, make your child feel smart. While playing games give him that sense of confidence to try his very best. If he doesn’t win the game, stress the importance of trying his best and that winning doesn’t define that you are a winner or the level of your intelligence. Have conversations with your child and discuss topics of interest. Allowing them to talk about things they are confident and comfortable about makes it easier for them to feel smarter. Review past concepts and skills that they have learned in grades prior, this helps boost their self-esteem and allow them to believe they can retain information and apply it as well. Celebrate even the tiniest accomplishments and always stand by your child’s side so that he knows, “I am supported and valued”, but most of all he feels “smart”!
Children need to be challenged as well. A sense of challenge and difficulty will give a child an extra boost and extra confidence to work harder, conquer difficult obstacles and know that although something may be tough- they are smart enough to work harder and achieve what may seem to be impossible. Of course this does not all happen overnight. Your child’s self-esteem must be built over time, gradually working the child’s way to believing in himself.
The main goal and purpose of all of this is for your children to be a confident and independent individuals. Your children will grow to know that although there are times in life that may be hard, choices may be difficult to make, and things don’t always go our way- they are smart enough to know to make choices that are best for them. No one can tell them otherwise- they are confident to know their true self-worth and intelligence to grow even stronger!
How do you help your child feel smart?
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