• Home
  • About
  • Work with me
  • Praise
  • Media Kit
  • Blogger Networks
  • Contact

Mommy Teaches

Honoring the Uniqueness of Every Child

Join the Mommy Teaches Newsletter

Discover how you can bring out the best in every child.

  • Blog Topics:
  • Parenting
  • Mommyhood
  • Family Travel
  • Education
  • Reviews
  • ASD
  • Culture
  • Positivity

Different Sides Of The Track

March 16, 2015 By Eileen Carter-Campos

My husband and I are so different but yet so similar! I just can’t understand it sometimes and I don’t even try to make sense of it. We are from different sides of the track in most ways from our families to our upbringing, yet we truly understand one another and see eye to eye (most times). I learn something new about him everyday and I love it..I love to learn!

photo.PNG-154
**Image Credit: electricjonny.deviantart**

Just the other day, we were having a conversation at the dinner table and he shared something I knew nothing about. Honestly, I had no clue that his mother didn’t attend his high school graduation. In my eyes, this is a momentous event I would not want to miss for my children. Why did she miss it? Did he resent her for not attending? I know I would have been pissed if my mother hadn’t attended my high school graduation. Did I mention it’s a once in a lifetime event? I think moms should just be there for special occasions like this – no questions asked. Apparently, this did not bother him because his “Mama” (his grandmother– his dad’s mother) was present and she was the one who raised him after the age of fourteen, I believe. (dates always change–lol) The whole story was quite different for me to hear.

 

Another thing I can’t imagine myself without that my husband survived despite lacking is parental support and involvement. My parents NOT raising me? I don’t care what age I am ...in my eyes it’s the duty of parents to raise me and provide for me as I do (and always will) for my own children. His parents were both healthy and fine but they allowed his father’s mother to raise him in New York City. I often ask him how he felt about that and he says he enjoyed being with his grandmother but I just can’t relate. That situation was extremely different for me because both my parents raised me and I can’t imagine growing up any other way.

photo.PNG-155
**Image Credit: authenticlove789.com**

 I remember when I had my first born, my husband’s father said something like, “send him here so I can raise him!”….ummmmm what did he just say? No, I had my son and I will raise him. History will NOT be repeating itself in this household…sorry…end of discussion. I believe that my husband and I are proof that people can be so different but yet so similar today because we agree upon the fact that children need their parents at any age. My husband agrees that he doesn’t have the answer as to why his mother allowed all three of her sons to leave his homeland at such a young age but he believes without leaving, we would have never met and created our bond with our little family. When we committed and took our vows, we promised to take full responsibility and never leave the burden of raising or watching our children on anyone else. I guess we aren’t so different after all!

Share:

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • More
  • Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)
  • Click to print (Opens in new window)

Related

Filed Under: Couples & Relationships, Heritage & Culture Tagged With: love, Relationship, Union, Unity

Comments

  1. Mari says

    March 16, 2015 at 10:24 pm

    It’s interesting that opposites attract indeed but also somehow find a common ground. Like your husband, I also didn’t have my mother at my graduation. What I have come to understand and respect after many years and with the relationship of my daughter and I is that parents do the best they can with what they know. When you know better you do better and just because you are a parent at times there is no sense of duty or responsibility because it’s just not in them / you. My daughter and I have an awesome relationship and that’s because I chose to do differently then what my family gave me but I don’t hold any ill will or judgment against them or anyone for doing best they know how at the time. I learned to respect different parenting roads and to be grateful for my road. Thanks for share and open honesty I’m sure your grateful your parents were so well connected to you 🙂

Trackbacks

  1. Different Families, Different Values | Mommy Teaches says:
    March 18, 2016 at 10:12 am

    […] families. I feel that our family values are different as well. I have spoken about us being from different sides of the track and I have shared my own issues with absentee grandparents. When I think about it more and more […]

  2. Accept And Respect To Stop This Massacre | Mommy Teaches says:
    October 22, 2016 at 7:50 am

    […] me not get into the fact that I am married to a Dominican man who is sometimes mistaken for a Black man and not Hispanic at all. I have seen many women give him […]

Welcome to MommyTeaches.com

Hi, I'm Eileen, an educator, mom of two, and proud Boricua!  Here on "MommyTeaches," you'll receive real insight from a teacher of more than 15 years and a mother of two boys who love to explore the world around them.  But "Mommy Teaches" isn't just the name of the blog, it's my life!  I'm teaching every single day, whether in the classroom or at home with my own kids.  As mothers, we know just how important our role is, as we become our child's first teacher. [ Keep reading → ]

Connect with me

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Pinterest
  • RSS
  • Twitter
  • YouTube

Search Mommy Teaches

Listen to the Mommy Teaches Podcast!

LISTEN ON ANCHOR »
The Network Niche

Watch Me On Periscope

@EileenCCampos

As Seen On

Recognized as a Top Bloguera

Spanglish Baby ReadMe

On Instagram

This error message is only visible to WordPress admins

Error: No feed found.

Please go to the Instagram Feed settings page to create a feed.

On Facebook

MommyTeaches

Networks

Everywhere Society Member

Vote for Me

Site Navigation

  • Home
  • About
  • Work with me
  • Praise
  • Media Kit
  • Blogger Networks
  • Contact

Top Posts

  • 5 Ways to Avoid Summer School
  • 4 Reasons You Are An Unprofessional Educator
  • Different Families, Different Values
  • Ringworm (Tinea) Preventions for Teachers and Parents
  • Teaching Kids To Love Literacy
  • Child Support Sums and Fathers Who Complain
  • The Bully In The Bathroom

Blog Topics

  • ASD / ADHD / Asperger’s
  • Books & Reviews
  • Couples & Relationships
  • Educational Crafts
  • Family Health & Safety
  • Family Travel
  • Heritage & Culture
  • Managing Mommyhood
  • MommyTeaches Parenting
  • Positivity & Graditude
  • Social Networking & Events
  • Sponsored / Promotional Content
  • Teaching & Education
  • Writing & Blogging

Copyright © 2023, Mommy Teaches · Web Design by Chantilly Patino